A Topic 4 Discussion

[أم حُسين]

My sister Malak Al-Ward suggested that we have a topic 4 discussion here in out little forum and since we all share in making decisons, I am putting it in your hands. What would you like to talk about ?

I am waiting for votes:D

[Imran]

You have the word


Say what ever you like and I will share my ideas with you

about any subject



but not in a subject for girls only

[أم حُسين]

:D
Imran

The subject won't be feminist or girlish:D

It will be open

[Imran]

I know that
It was just a bad joke


Until know you did not suggest any thing
So I will suggest War

And I have a question for you
Why do not you write in other areas other than كلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةكلمة ممنوعةs
I think you will be fine

[عاشق الحسين]

Stay away from politics as much as you can

We have been hearing news more than 5 times a day

I suggest to talk about something beneficial and politics is not

Lets for example talk about a habit like anger..

regards

[أم حُسين]

Anger is a good topic.. I hope your message reaches all interested members

[عاشق الحسين]

Dear Remey

Since nobody wants to support the subject being recommended I will just intiate the discussion on the same..


Anger: What Is It? and Why? Plus a Self- Test



Anger is one of the most misunderstood and overused of human emotions.

Anger is a reaction to an inner emotion and not a planned action.

Anger is easier to show: everyone gets angry.
The feelings underlying the anger reaction make us feel vulnerable and weak; anger makes us feel, at least momentarily, strong and in control.

Angry behaviors are learned over the life-span and therefore can be unlearned and replaced with healthier patterns of coping.

Anger can be an immediate reaction to an isolated event or it can be a response after numerous events.

To repress anger is unhealthy and yet to express it impulsively, as we so often do, may give momentary relief but inevitably will carry negative consequences. To alter our angry responses, we need to understand from where it comes.


???Why

There are a variety of factors that increase the probability of an anger reaction.

If we have seen our parents get angry first and resolve an issue after, we are more likely to use the same approach. Thus, types of anger are learned.

If we are frustrated and feel stressed, we are more likely to react with anger.

If we are tired, we are more prone to react in an angry fashion.

If we tend to hold our feelings inside rather than talk them out, we are more likely to have an angry outburst as the pressure increase much like a pressure cooker.


Anger Check List -- How Is Your Anger?

People tell you that you need to calm down.

You feel tense much of the time.

At work, you find yourself not saying what is on your mind.
When you are upset, you try to block the world out by watching TV, reading a book or magazine, or going to sleep.

You are drinking or smoking marijuana almost daily to help you calm down.

You have trouble going to sleep.

You feel misunderstood or not listened to much of the time.

People ask you not to yell or curse so much.

Your loved ones keep saying that you are hurting them.

Friends do not seek you out as much.


Scoring:

0 - 2 =
MANAGEABLE: you could benefit from relaxation training.

3 - 5 =

MODERATE: you need to learn more about what stresses you, and learn stress management techniques.

6 + =

OUT OF CONTROL: you have an anger problem that could benefit from learning anger management techniques.



Conclusion Anger reactions have been likened to a train running out of control and about to derail. A little anger can motivate us to take action in positive ways. A lot of anger will make us "red with rage." The price for anger that is out of control will drive away those whom we love the most and endanger our daily normal existence.